"Create a Ritual"

That was the homework. To create our own sacred evening for ourselves.

Mine:
One-boarding during the sunset as the lightning struck through the clouds
The light touch of his hand as we sped through a field of sunflowers
Cuddling in as many places around the house as possible
Talking and laughing as he attempted to teach me party tricks
Sensual energy touch
A late-night snack ending in chocolate
Morning yoga and a final goodbye walk

Rituals don't have to be death-and-rebirth ceremonies, They CAN be.

They can also be SIMPLE things like being in nature and chilling with a new friend.

Whatever is ritual TO YOU.

And this was mine <3

On Playing with Desire...

Knowing that I have responsive desire has CHANGED THE GAME for me in my physical interactions.
How I play with responsive desire:
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-- I create contexts that work FOR ME (I create the night that will turn ME on and invite my partner into that)
-- I let my partner know what contexts work for me so they choose to help co-create these contexts with me
-- I take as much care of my physical, emotional needs before-hand so my body feels as safe as possible to open into my present moment
-- I inform my partner of my desire-style and let them know what that means for me
-- Part of my "connection speech" is to let my partner know that I may be open to s-x, but I need to have that off the table until it arises as a desire in my body and that it may/ or may not get to that
-- I only play with people that I trust are comfortable with the above and can love/play/co-create with me in whatever level desire arises.

Differing desires styles is TOTALLY OKAY. It is being able to own your style and then co-create with a willing partner that to me, has changed the game..

Finally, after many months, I have the courage to post about my journey to get here..

I was shaking doing this podcast with John McElhenney (and definitely had the nervous giggles), but I am really proud of this. And thankful for John of The Whole Parent for going so deep.

If you were ever curious about my journey and how tantric bodywork has changed my life, this is for you.

My favorite quote: "If I can go into that dark box (sexuality) and help people be just a little bit more themselves and feel good, then that will ripple out into the world... Why explore sex? Because that is the place we are told not to explore, and yet that is the place that holds so much personal empowerment."

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