"Getting yours needs met is non-negotiable. It may not be the way you want it, or by whom, but it must happen." ~Billy Lee Myers

This got me thinking about the bridge between our inner world (desires and needs) and our outer world (the real world): Too much weight on our inner world: Results in trying to "force our will" on the outer world, controlling, manipulating. On the other hand, too much weight on our outer world: Results in "victim mentality," lack of action, entropy. How can we find balance between the two?

"I need to learn your secrets," he said. "It seems as if you are so good at connecting with others. It seems so easy."

I laughed... Out loud...

I remembered the last time one of my connections went WAY south, less than a year ago. We met, shared time and space, and had a "falling out." We haven't spoken a word to each other in the time since then, and I have not initiated any reparation attempts.

The Dream: My chest rises and falls as I breathe deeply, relaxing. "How does it feel?" He asks, curiously. I notice his energy distant, but his attention on me. "Amazing," I whisper, more to myself than to him.

I begin to trace my nails up and down along my arms. I can feel the energy at the places of contact, my entire body transfixed by the heat, the tingles, and the goosebumps.

I love being bold. I l love experimenting with bold, direct actions and desires. I love catching people (myself included) off guard with my boldness.

Some of the things I have said/done:

"If you could have your biggest desire tonight with me, what would it be?"- (Insert mouth-drop)

"There isn't a percentage cut-off that proves you are Bi" they said. "You don't have to be equally attracted to men and women... 80% one way or the other, is still Bi... if that is how you want to identify."

What!? Wait.. what!? My brain scrambled for a few moments and flashed through some thoughts. I'm (pretty darn) straight though, or am I!?

You may be familiar with “Spontaneous Desire,” the desire that, like a lightning bolt, strikes out of nowhere and we are turned on. Those days where you are walking down the street, randomly think a sexy thought, and Boom, you are ready to go. This is the type of desire we commonly see in movies.

Another type of desire is “Responsive Desire,” the desire that emerges in response to a context that is conducive to pleasure that is happening right now.

Create a Ritual. That was the homework. To create our own sacred evening for ourselves.

Mine: One-wheeling during the sunset as the lightning struck through the clouds. The light touch of his hand as we sped through a field of sunflowers. Cuddling in as many places around the house as possible.

From the moment I laid eyes on him in a lecture on the Science of Attraction (talk about serendipity), my body was pulled towards him.

I walked into the lecture and there he was, red shirt and a back of a head, and my first thought was "whoa." Never seeing the face of this human, I plop myself down about five paces from him and sprawl out on the floor Krysta-fashion. But I could not get him out of my head..